CHARIKLO SAID
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Zoe wrote:
Thank you for saying that Loz.
I used to be angry with the JW's themselves for the way they act towards those of us who no longer believe. Now I realize that was so wrong, now I feel extremely sad that they can't see the lies and that they are wasting their lives.
Love and patience is what we need to give them, not resentment, anger, intolerance and hate. They will not find Love, patience or tolerance in the Watchtower Org. thats for sure.
That will always be true for some, Zoe, perhaps...indeed, probably...even for most.
However, there is another sort of person among the Jehovah's Witnesses. There are those, largely but by no means all, elders, and perhaps extending to many elders' wives too, who revel in the sense of superiority and power that being a Jehovah's Witness gives them.
I know, for instance, that on JWN there are many who have encountered Witnesses like this, and who have suffered at their hands. I certainly did, from both elders and elders' wives. The Watchtower gives elders a total authority which is ostensibly supposed to come from Jehovah, whose power is delegated, they believe and assert, to the Governing Body and thence to the elders in each congregation.
This ladder-like system of delegation is the perfect cover for individuals with a psychological bent towards the exercising of an arbitrary type of authority that can in the hands of some rapidly degenerate towards tyranny. If an individual has an innate tendency towards bullying, woe betide the unwary congregation member who comes to their notice. Even with my brief experience I have observed this personally as it has happened to others, and have experienced it at close quarters myself. This tendency may and as experiences related on JWN make evident, extend to elders' wives, who, possessing no real direct powers of authority themselves, are even more likely to exert perhaps subtle, perhaps very obvious forms of bullying, showering with favours and exercising a sharply-targeted form of quasi-shunning demonstrated only among women.
Power is dangerous, and, as they say, always has a tendency to corrupt, while absolute power corrupts absolutely. The Watchtower system allows it elders to exercise absolute power.
An even more subtle and rather sad effect of the Watchtower's policies can be seen among Witnesses. They become brainwashed, unable to think properly for themselves, and because they are constantly being programmed and reprogrammed to think that only those within the Watchtower are going to be saved by Jehovah when the time comes, they come to see themselves as superior in some way over others, more deserving, better motivated, and inevitably closer to God. This is particularly damaging. They have to retain these damaging patterns of thought, to bolster up their own hope and expectation as the last day is delayed yearly ever longer.
This very sad effect even outlasts the otherwise inevitable disillusionment when an individual eventually sees through the Watchtower blather. Time and again in different and varied ways the sense that they are the ones who now see accurate truth can be encountered, and the classic sense of Witness superiority surfaces. It shows itself time and again. However, mercifully, it doesn't affect everyone, not even the majority of ex-Witnesses.
You're right, Zoe. Being angry with them isn't called for. Even if a person has been the direct target of the bullying or of the superior type of person, we can remember that all are products of the manipulative Watchtower. Still, bullies are bullies, and therefore culpable, and those who see themselves as the ones who are always right also have the choice of whether they are willing to abandon the last vestiges of Watchtower controlling techniques. Some choose not to, whatever the refuge they find, and they readily adopt a philosophy that upholds that abstract idea of exclusive or superior status.
Not all elders, by any means, behave in that autocratic way, and those who are honest and are willing to acknowledge the real nature of the Watchtower when they eventually realise it, such ex-elders are often very fine people. They're not rare, either, and it's encouraging whenever we encounter them, and it gives great grounds for hope. But let's just be a bit wary before we decide to have compassion on all JW's. It isn't always appropriate, and the problem isn't confined to those still obviously "in".
Perhaps it's a case of being able to take a man ...or woman! ...out of the Watchtower but that it's more difficult to take the Watchtower out of the man!